We don't ask for much. We intuitively grasp that it's necessary and right to let go for now, but we naturally long for a moment here and there, a time in which we, with or without the support of a facilitator, can actually bring them back to us. A time to establish contact in such a way as to leave no room for doubt of their existence. To laugh with relief. To begin to feel lighthearted again. The truth is we are allowed to keep in touch, always have been. We've been granted permission to lift the veil. We can enjoy their presence again, if only for a moment, and it's worth it.

You Have Come to the Right Place

For Those Who Wish to Help Others; You may be a mental health professional, a member of the clergy or funeral industry, or you may be a person who has experienced grief and wants to help others. We are here to make sure that you have the best possible tools for helping people deal with their broken hearts.

For Your Own Broken Heart: There are more than 40 events that can create the range of human emotions called grief. Death of a Loved One [or Less Than Loved One], Divorce, Estrangements, Financial Changes and Health Issues just to name a few. Whether the loss was recent or long ago, it may still be limiting your ability to participate fully in life. Lilly would like to assist in the ultimate journey back to a healthy mind, body & soul, and back on the path of Your True Nature.

Reading a book or a website is a good place to begin healing. For everyone whose life has been affected by loss and wants to know how to help themselves, or for parents, guardians, and others who wish to help children. Reading won’t fix you, but the actions suggested in the books and websites will. If you like, you can - email us for immediate FREE counsel, via email or online chat

Why is Grieving so Difficult?

1. The extent of the loss: When one you love dies, you lose your dreams and hopes for
the future, a friend, someone who understands you and someone who shares your
past. It may take you months to understand the extent of the loss.

2. The wide range of emotions: You may experience emotions you have never known
before.

3. The intensity of the emotions: Not only do you experience new emotions, you feel
them with an intensity that makes coping more difficult. These emotions can erupt like
a tornado inside us.

4. Each death is unique: No matter how many deaths you may have experienced in
your life, this loss will be unique.

5. Lack of understanding: A grieving person will often ask, "Why do I feel the way I
do?" Quite simply, most of us don't understand grief or its effect on our lives.
 

Five Basic Facts About Grief


1. Grief is a process that takes a lot of time, energy and determination. You won't "get
over" your grief in a hurry.

2. Grief is intensely personal. This is your grief, don't let others tell you how to grieve.

3. Grief is an assault on the entire being. It affects you physically, emotionally, socially,
mentally and spiritually.

4. You will be affected by this loss for the rest of your life. As time goes by, you will
have new insights into what this death means to you.

5. Grief has the potential for being transformative. You will change, your values may
change and you will see life from a new and different perspective.

6. So the grieving process is a life long process of change. If you can say "yes" to that concept, then life will be renewed. You will live and love again. The memory and the love of your loved one will continue to move you and inspire you for the rest of your life.

Some Suggestions For Those Suffering a Loss
"Blessed are they that mourn; for they shall be comforted." ~ Matthew 5:4 ~



Rely on friends:
Do not hesitate to let others help if they offer to do so and you can really use some
assistance.

Take care of your health:
Grieving can wear you out, especially in the beginning. Your body needs sufficient rest,
healthful exercise, and proper nourishment more than ever.

Postpone major decisions:
If possible, wait for at least some time until you are thinking more clearly before you
decide such things as whether to sell your house or to change your job.

Be patient with yourself:
Grief often lasts longer than people in general realize. Yearly reminders of the lost loved
one may renew the pain. Special pictures, songs, or even smells can trigger the tears.

Make allowances for others:
Try to be patient with others. Realize that it is awkward for them. Not knowing what to
say, they may clumsily say the wrong thing.

Get back into a regular routine:
You may have to push yourself at first to go to work, to go shopping, or to take care
of other responsibilities. But you may find that the structure of your normal routine will
do you a lot of good.

Do not be afraid to let go of acute grief:
Strange as it may seem, some bereaved ones are afraid to let go of the intense grief,
believing that it may indicate their love for the deceased one is diminishing. That simply
is not the case. Letting go of the pain makes way for treasured memories that will no
doubt always remain with you.



How to Help a Grieving Friend or Relative


Don't worry about what to say. Just being there shows you care. Don't feel you have
to have answers. Just be a good listener.

Talk about the deceased... anything you know about them, such as what they said or
did. It helps the grieving person to keep them close.

Call often, especially after the first couple of weeks. They may need to talk.

Don't avoid the person when you see them for the first time after the funeral. Go up to
them first.

Try not to look startled when they mention the deceased. Let them talk about their
loved one as much as they like.

Don't try to get their minds off of the loved one. That is impossible for a long time.

Don't be uneasy if you cry and the bereaved doesn't. A person can only cry so many
tears. The hurt is still there.

Don't talk about what the deceased might have done to be spared by death. Those thoughts
bring no comfort.

Don't remind the person of what they still have. At this time, all they can think of is what they have lost.

Grief also seems to heal best when you share it with others. The purpose of a support group is to give you a sense that you are not alone in your sorrow. Most bereaved have said that they find comfort being with other people who have had similar experiences. Perhaps for the first time, they find someone who truly appreciates how they feel. Other bereaved understand the problems associated with the death of a loved one. Through talking and sharing their stories, they vocalize and ventilate their intense feelings. They lift the lid off their emotional pressure cooker. By doing so they validate each other's feelings.

We encourage you to join our Grief and Loss Discussion Groups. To better address your individual needs, this group enables you to participate in forums that are separate and distinct from one another, according to your specific type of loss ~ the loss of a
spouse, a child, a parent, or a cherished pet, for example.

"Rivers punctuate living. They are the symbol of the ongoing relationship we have with the fuller realities within which we flow. We are like fish, filled with water and surrounded by water. This collection came out of my own reflections on the river of life. I have used the River Ash as my waterway. Most of the pieces are improvisations. It is a great gift to be able to give birth to music having been impregnated by the mysteries that find their home in one's soul." Kelly Walker, March 1998. This CD would be a welcome addition to a music collection of those working with bereaved people.

I believe that all have the power within to make the choices to pursue the path in life they wish. Each of us must walk our own path (not that dictated by another) to fulfill our soul's desire. This part of my guidance is geared on helping you find YOUR path and tools you have brought in with you for this lifetime.

My purpose is not to take your power away from you, each of us require assistance from time to time in clearing up a "cloud" around a situation, however; my goal is to assist YOU in finding the center of YOU the place within where all true answers are found whereby; we find our true empowerment.

My goal is to enlighten, and empower others through awareness, understanding and education. In partnership with Divine Guidance, I strive to be The Pathway that spans the gap between Belief and Knowing. My mission is to be a celebration of healing for body, mind and spirit. My purpose is putting you in touch with yours.