We want people to notice us; to acknowledge us. Sometimes, when they don’t we get sensitive and respond with ‘emotional touchiness’ because in reality, we often expect people to reciprocate. However, we must realize that this sort of manipulation does not work.
In fact, by becoming abrasive or aggressive, we often lose our own independence. By giving vent to our wounded feelings in order to gain attention, what often happens is we compromise our own direction. Is it worth it?
I would argue an emphatic No. We must not depend on others to be compatible with us. We must not compromise our own feelings to appease others. This shows a lack of direction and further invites others to take advantage.
Why are we so afraid? Why do we lose our ability to discriminate? By appeasing others, we only lose our confidence. Moreover, we stop inviting the right kind of people into our lives. We repel those that would otherwise be attracted to our genuine self.
I believe true internal balance is achieved when we take responsibility for our own beliefs. Instead of compromising in order to achieve ‘peacefulness’, we should commit ourselves to the integrity of our own direction…Then simply relax in the knowing that the outcome will be for the greater good.
By asserting ourselves and putting forth our genuine voice with conviction, we will automatically come into balance according to our higher plan or purpose. How we appear to others becomes at this point irrelevant.
Why? It is because there exists out there, an endless supply of people who will genuinely sympathize with our beliefs provided we have the courage to express our own identity.
Why not give a voice to our independent and real point of view? Why not go deep? Why not express ourselves from a place of harmony; from a place of balance? By doing this, we not only impel others to do the same, we claim our authority … we create the desired outcome …