Divorce as Friends

DIVORCE and stay FRIENDS

Minimize conflict during your divorce, and possibly save your marriage.

You have the ability to end the conflict and heal your relationship, one human being to another. You just need to know how. No matter how difficult your situation is, you have the ability to turn it around. Learn how to end conflict, restore cooperation and heal your relationship, one human being to another.

Do you have a painful relationship? Do you want to end the conflict?

How you handle your situation now sets the stage your how your relationship will be for the rest of your life. If your relationship is one of cooperation and support, your future will be a lot easier. This is particularly true if you have children. You will be interacting with the other person for many years to come. A good relationship will make an enormous difference in the quality of your life.It's is also the most important thing you can do for your children. By far, the single biggest factor in the well-being of children is how well their parents get along.

Put The Focus On Healing Your Relationship

Whether you want to get a divorce or save your marriage, the action you take now becomes very important. You can either interact in a way that restores love and forwards cooperation or you can interact in a way that creates more pain and suffering. We usually interact in a way that creates more suffering

We have so much hurt and upset, we lose our ability to see clearly. All we can do is fight, resist, hang on or withdraw. This in turn destroys love and fuels the cycle of conflict. This cycle of conflict then brings out the worst in people.

To be most effective in handling your situation, this cycle of conflict needs to end. This is true whether you want to save your marriage or get a divorce. Fortunately, it only takes one person to end the conflict.


The key to healing your relationship, and having it work, is you.

How you relate to the other person determines how that person will relate to you. How you relate to each other determines whether your relationship will be painful or supportive.

Once you discover your role in the problem, you can do something about it.

Unfortunately, we seldom notice that we have anything to do with what is happening. All we can see is how the other person treats us. We then treat the other person accordingly.

If we receive love and appreciation, we'll give love and appreciation. If we receive criticism and resentment, we'll give criticism and resentment. We treat the other person according to how that person treats us. The problem with this is that the other person is doing exactly the same thing. That person treats you according to how you treat him or her.

When you treat each other based on how you get treated, there is no telling what will happen. It's like sailing with no one at the helm. When no one is in charge of the ship, you're likely to end up on the rocks.

Usually it's just a matter of time until someone gets upset. That person then puts up his or her walls of protection and either resists, attacks or withdraws. Then the other person gets upset and does the same thing. Then the first person gets more upset and reacts more forcefully toward the other.

Without knowing, you create a cycle of conflict -- a cycle of resisting, attacking and withdrawing from each other. This cycle of conflict then continues on and on without either person ever noticing his or her role in the problem.

Sides get drawn and issues become something to fight over rather than something to resolve. Walls of protection get fortified and distance grows. The experience of love quickly fades away. We hurt each other over and over again, feeling fully justified for everything we do. Serious damage is done, and none of it is necessary.

Fortunately, two people are required in order to create and maintain this cycle of conflict. Only one person is needed to end it. The cycle of conflict is like a tennis volley. As soon as one person stops playing the game, the game is over.

You end the conflict by putting water on the fire instead of more fuel. Put the focus on healing your relationship, not as husband and wife, but as one human being to another. To the extent that you are able to do this, you gain cooperation instead of resentment. Issues get resolved quickly. You become free inside and able to get on with your life.

The process of healing your relationship is relatively easy once you know how. This site will walk you through the steps. As you work with the various sections and do what they say, you will notice immediate results in your relationship.

Consultations with Lilly

I believe that all have the power within to make the choices to pursue the path in life they wish. Each of us must walk our own path (not that dictated by another) to fulfill our soul's desire. This part of my guidance is geared on helping you find YOUR path and tools you have brought in with you for this lifetime.

My purpose is not to take your power away from you, each of us require assistance from time to time in clearing up a "cloud" around a situation, however; my goal is to assist YOU in finding the center of YOU the place within where all true answers are found whereby; we find our true empowerment.

My goal is to enlighten, and empower others through awareness, understanding and education. In partnership with Divine Guidance, I strive to be The Pathway that spans the gap between Belief and Knowing. My mission is to be a celebration of healing for body, mind and spirit. My purpose is putting you in touch with yours.

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