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What Are Soulmate Relationships?
Most people dream about having a Soulmate...But few make the dream a reality
The term Soulmates means many things. These are souls that you have experienced with in past, parallel or future lifetimes. They can also be aspects of your soul experiencing at this time in another body.
We are all multidimensional beings - your soul having experiences, in many realities, at the same time. As we all evolve from the same source of consciousness creation - we could say that we are all soulmates in a manner of speaking.
Soulmates can have various types of relationships, which do not always include romantic love. We tend to think of our soulmate as The One who is there for us and to make us feel complete.
Recognizing Your Soulmates and Soulmate Relationships
Souls often come together to work out issues or play reverse roles than that which they are experiencing elsewhere. Anyone who is in your biological family - or adopted family - or pseudo-family - is a soul mate to you.
Who is my soulmate? Is He "The One"?
Soulmates can have various types of relationships, which do not
always include romantic love. We tend to think of our soulmate as The
One who is there for us and to make us feel complete.
You feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them. Karma is the responsibilities shared between soulmates..
Often soulmates come together to bring another soul into the physical realms. A man and woman mate and produce one or more children - the karma thus completed ends. The couple separates and share whatever karma is linked to the child.
Sometimes the karma in family is between mother and child - so the child remains exclusively with the mother. Sometimes the karma is with the father and the mother leaves or deceases. Sometimes it is with both parents or with a sibling who has entered the game before or after you.
Soulmates can be close friends, co-workers, a teacher, anyone who influences your life one way or another. They play the emotional - spiritual - physical - and mental - games of third dimension with you.
How Do You Recognize Your Spiritual Soulmate?
Soulmates: Limiting Myth or Quality You Create?
The idea of a soulmate has both conscious or unconscious elements. Even if we do not intellectually believe in soulmates, we are still affected. Many people openly and consciously yearn for a soulmate. They may even believe one person is out there for them, that "right" person.
In Rutgers University's 2001 National Marriage Project Survey, 94% of 20-to-29-year-olds said: "When you marry, you want your spouse to be your soul mate, first and foremost." Another 88% said: "There is a special person, a soulmate, waiting for you out there."
But even those who don't believe in soulmates consciously are just as affected by a similar idea that operates unconsciously and more powerfully. We all hold some unconscious list of notions describing an "ideal" relationship partner. Often we recite parts of this list as what we want in a partner.
But reality inevitably fails to match our ideals. And we judge and react to real people according to our ideals. As a result, many relationships that have potential are blocked, if not lost. And dissatisfaction, unhappiness and upsets are unconsciously generated.
Is the very notion of "soulmate" (conscious or unconscious) just a self-limiting fantasy an idealization which only keeps us from ever feeling truly satisfied with a real-life human partner? Or are we not seeing a positive potential here?
What we will tell you about soulmates is a paradox that goes beyond fantasies, myths, empty hopes or hype. It may get you to realize something vital about relationships, no matter what you believe about soulmates.
What We Have To Say About Soulmates & Soulmate Relationships
Perhaps we have nothing more useful to say than the next guy, if all
you want to talk about is belief systems or occult theories. But we are
not going to discuss beliefs or theories here. They do not interest us
at all. We are only interested in practical results that you can see,
hear, touch and feel something that you can live!
In a down-to-earth sense, we know what we are talking about. We are a happily married couple. And we are relationship coaches. Day in and day out we work with couples in all situations and predicaments.
We witness what builds true, lasting, and profoundly satisfying love. We know it in others. And, more importantly, we know it in ourselves. This is a love which sometimes fills couples when they are starting out. They say they feel just like "soulmates" so enormous and enveloping is the love they feel.
In a break with normal timing, for us it was 10 years before we would use the word "soulmates" to describe our relationship. Unlike a couple just falling in love, for us this feeling was not a dream or based on hope for the future. It's easy to feel like you are soulmates in the midst of a passionate and seemingly endless honeymoon.
When you feel like soulmates at the end of a decade, something else is involved. It is not a fantasy, but a realization based on a real-world track record, already well tested by time. We may have debated the traditionally occult aspects of the word "soulmates" whether "destiny" is involved, whether there are "past lives" or the like.
What we could not debate was the sense that we had evolved with each other to a new level of relationship, one which we had no other words for. Simply put, the word "soulmates" was the best word in the English language to capture how we felt and continue to feel to this day.
Meeting A Soulmate VS Becoming Soulmates
Meeting Your Soulmate vs. Becoming Soulmates
We wrote a book about the path that led us to feeling like soulmates. It was also what we saw with our clients who struggled through their own tests to find unanticipated levels of happiness together.
Our main point in the book title was that you don't just meet a "soulmate" and live happily ever after, like the myth says. Instead, we observed that real world soulmates become that by growing together in certain ways and working through challenges successfully as contrasted with how many other couples get stuck in less fulfilling, impoverished relationships.
After writing a book where the magic word "soulmates" was in the title, we met and talked at length with many other people who had experienced the feeling that they were with a soulmate. Almost all of them were talking about the initial feeling of being "soulmates" upon first falling in love as a new couple.
Some of these people had continued together as soulmates for decades. Others, individuals, reported they had split up with a partner they at one time felt was their soulmate, often years ago but that it just did not work out. Each initially thought, from their first feelings of being soulmates, they would stay together for life that it was the real thing true and lasting love. But some challenge came along which they could not overcome.
When we thought about our first 10 years together before we had ever used the word "soulmates" it was clear to us how our love grew stronger, despite the various challenges and upsets that could have thrown us off track. Indeed, it was precisely because we had continually faced and overcome such challenges that our love grew deeper and stronger.
And it was out of this gradual and consistent growth and strengthening that we finally evolved the deep and unshakable knowing that we were in this very real world of ours, filled as it is with ongoing relationship challenges soulmates.
Two Kinds of "Soulmates"
Putting this together, the following Soul Mate formula occurred to us:
Love at first sight = Potential Soulmates
Love that overcomes challenges = Real-World Soulmates
We defined real-world soulmates as two partners who engage in overcoming challenges that test their relationship. This is not something you can forecast in advance, when you initially fall in love. So, in a real sense, whether you feel like "soulmates" or not at the start of a relationship does not tell you how you will end up a decade later.
Real-world soulmates are tempered by time, like metal by fire. Time reveals that they persistently chose to learn and grow when confronted by challenges. All relationships get tested and challenged, simply because all of us have some personal growth to do no matter who your partner is. Soulmates are partners who actually do their growth in the face of a challenge.
Many couples start off with great hopes and dreams, are potential soulmates, but then falter when challenges arise. As coaches, we help people learn new strategies to move through challenges instead of being thrown off track. Inspired by our personal experience, we confront the popular myths about soulmates. We attempt to show, from our own life and from the lives of our clients, how to make the dream a reality.
With today's high rate of relationship dissatisfaction and divorce it's time for major change. Regardless of intellectual beliefs, most of us unconsciously hold onto a fantasy soulmate myth. The danger with this soulmate ideal whether we subscribe consciously, or unconsciously is that in times of challenge, we usually find our real-world partner comes up short of our internal idealized, hoped-for mate. And then we, ourselves, start to think and act in ways that hurt our real-world relationship.
In our discussion of soulmates, we find it critical to turn the myth inside-out, to create an inspiring and useful approach to long-term happiness in love.
The Honeymoon of Soulmates
Falling in Love is like a Spiritual Experience
When couples first fall in love, it is the honeymoon a time of
magic and wonder. Hearts open. Spirits soar. In this expansive state,
with ecstatic feelings of being in love, couples may feel they are
Here is the sense we make of this. The feeling of "being soulmates" is all about the incredible openness and receptivity, the expansion so far beyond our norm and comfort zone, the heightened clear access to energy and passion.
This is our internal state. We assume it comes from outside of us from the other person we are with. In a word, we call them our "soulmate". But what we are really talking about is our own internal state of expansion
Some say the honeymoon is like a spiritual experience. But reality says the honeymoon does not last forever. So it's important to refine our thinking about soulmates, true love, and what is essential for a lasting relationship.
Love is everything, right? We want the honeymoon to last forever. If you find your soulmate, you live happily ever after, right? It's predestined, right?
What every honeymoon lover hopes for, and wants to believe, is that famous song verse is going to be true for them: "All you need is love..."
Love is Not Enough for all Soulmates
It takes more than just love or that incomparable opening and
expansion in the honeymoon to have a lasting relationship. Countless
couples start with total positive feelings of being in love, and then
somewhere down the road, they painfully split up. What does this reality
In the honeymoon, we coast along in a purely receptive role. There is nothing we have to do. We just enjoy all those great honeymoon feelings of being in love. During this phase, we feel our partner inspires and uplifts us.
Yet when differences or upset feelings arise in a relationship, as inevitably they will, we find ourselves without our source of inspiration. Both partners want that missing uplift, and neither is able to inspire it.
Finding a "Soulmate" is Not Enough
There is the moment in all relationships when a couple turns from the bliss of the honeymoon and encounters their first problem, issue, difference or upset. This is a shock, and may lead to disappointment or doubts. The expansion and openness of the honeymoon reverses, and there is a contraction.
Just like the initial opening, the contraction the closing down is an internal state. Yet, just as before, it is blamed on the other person. Now, we think, "This is not the right person after all..."
That is the soulmate myth coming alive inside of us, effecting us to think and possibly act in ways that will take our relationship down a negative path. In this sense, the common myth of soulmates is a very dangerous one indeed because it usually ends up being a relationship-breaker.
Often people cannot see what to do when their relationship gets challenged or tested by time. Each partner hopes the other will re-inspire all those great "in love" feelings of opening and expanding. This way of thinking is a trap. You make it the other person's job to open you. Cannot be done. When you get right down to it, couples in this trap are being passive and out of touch with their own true power of loving.
The trap is this. Each person is depending on the other person to make things better again. That's called co-dependency. As it never works, each ends up resenting the other person.
In the honeymoon, the relationship theme is: "You make me feel great!"
But when challenges arise, in the next phase of love and if couples remain passive the next theme becomes: "You make me feel bad."
Deepening Love Beyond the Honeymoon
Lasting Soulmates are Not Passive
There is that next phase to love, the one beyond the honeymoon. If we want a great relationship to deepen and last, we need to realize that "happily ever after" includes feelings other than happiness.
There will be challenges.
We are the ones who must realize it is our own openness that is the key to keeping a relationship great and growing and then learn to re-open ourselves even when there are challenges. Especially when there are challenges!
In some ways, the myth of "soulmates" is about a relationship that is blue sky forever. Always sunny, and that sunshine pours down on us, brightens us up, lifts us.
In a real-world relationship, challenges come. The sky occasionally clouds. We are asked to stay present with what is not run and hide, waiting for the rainy day to pass. We are challenged to put aside limiting beliefs and embrace the rain, realizing that even rain has a positive purpose.
Relationship is our greatest teacher. It tells us what we need to learn next in life for our personal growth. In love we are called on to do work to become more skillful in relating, move beyond our past wounds and limits, and grow as human beings. This personal growth will include learning new tools and strategies in how we communicate, behave, and process emotions.
The inspiration for our book Becoming Soulmates was to share what we discovered to be the most effective tools and strategies to establish a lasting, great relationship:
> Learn how to change patterns that damage love
> Heal and overcome old baggage that holds us back today
> Improve communication skills to get good results
> Soothe difficult feelings in a relationship or within yourself
> Create a shared vision as a foundation for long-term success
Soulmates Engage in Personal Growth
Love Brings Up Our Lesson Plan For Soulmate Relationships
In the most challenging case, relationship work means showing up in a new way when both partners are stuck in negativity. It means embracing the upsets and learning how to expand and elevate the situation.
Couples who are becoming soulmates are willing to learn how to open themselves, even when the going gets rough. They commit to learn to bring out their best, instead of passively giving way to their habitual reactions. They refuse to simply close down into fear, withdrawal, self-defensiveness, resentment, blame, criticism, or the many other common ways we destroy our own relationships.
As a Japanese proverb suggests: "The Obstacle is the Path."
You are called on to instigate positive transformation. Each partner needs to come forward in times of challenge and expand to the occasion, rather than closing down.
What prevents us from doing this work is the lack of a good model for how to do it. How many couples did you witness doing this when you were growing up?
Did We Learn to Do the Work of a Soulmate Relationship?
We were told "Relationships take work." But, we are sadly lacking in useful guidelines, strategies or models for doing that work. We are have few tools or understandings that lift us to transform, much less resolve, our upsets.
Most of us were raised in families which did not model how to do the work. We have seldom seen it done well, and may not even know a couple that can do it at all. For over three decades, our society has had persistently poor statistics on the lasting success of love, relationship or marriage.
It is becoming clear that if we want to beat the odds and succeed in a great, long-term relationship, we need to learn to do the work of relationship ourselves. We need to pioneer a new path.
Let's start this work now, by consciously proposing a real-world
definition for the word "soulmates." A useful definition...
How Do You Know if You Are True Soulmates?
You are real-world soulmates if you're both doing your personal growth work in the face of challenges.
You cannot know it by the honeymoon phase alone. To know you are real-world soulmates, you need to see how you both show up to work with real-world upsets, sensitivities, differences and challenges.
Some couples start with all the magic feelings about being soulmates and then it fizzles. Continuing to want a passive solution to love, they conclude their partner was not the "right" person after all. They then look for the next honeymoon high, hitch the next passive ride until it crashes.
Other couples do not even think the word soulmate, nor do they believe in magic. But they commit to personal growth and face each lesson that love brings up. After awhile, doing the work of relationship over the years, they can see the solid trust and intimacy they have built, and there is little doubt in their hearts they are soulmates.
The solidity and clarity of this feeling of being "soulmates" is based on the personal growth which enables you, yourself, to stay open even in the face of a challenge, problem or emotionally-charged issue. It is in that openness that these difficulties resolve and love grows even stronger.
Thus the subtitle of our book is How to Share a Deeply Passionate Journey where Challenges Strengthen Love. Quite a mystifying mouth full. But if you get it, you have understood our paradoxical notion of soulmates. In many ways, the expectations of the normal myth of soulmates is what keeps us from opening to our real-world mate once we feel closed, upset, disappointed, or any other negative feeling.
But paradoxically, it is in the willingness to open, and re-open again as often as needed and embrace the obstacle directly in front of you that you finally get to a more continual and expanded state, a reliable fullness of love, and the deep core sense of being soulmates.
This is very different than the early sense of openness and
expansiveness in the honeymoon, where you get your first glimpse of the
feeling of being soulmates. It is based on real world experience, and
passing the tests where most couples fail. And you know that. There is
no longer doubt.
Soulmates happen, of course, when both partners are simultaneously
doing this. Becoming soulmates is not a solitary process. It is the
result of two people opening, even in the face of challenges.
Since we used word "soulmates" in the title of our book, people often ask us, "How do I know if I am truly with my soulmate?"
Our answer is quite simple.
You know you are with a "soulmate" if you are both doing your soul work together. Soul work is that courageous self-opening, expanding and growing as a chosen response to challenges that close down most people.
In doing that work, you evolve yourself and your soul matures.
The requirement is being willing to take a challenge to heart and respond to it by learning new tools, strategies or understandings to overcome it.
Doing that enables you to succeed in building a partnership so unparalleled that the best way you have to describe that in words is that you are soulmates.
Becoming Soulmates - John Grey, Ph.D. & Bonney Grey, RN
Here are some suggestions to get started finding, recognizing and meeting your Soulmate:
* Modern Soulmate Theory - explaining soulmates using probabilities.
* Classic Soulmate Theory - explaining soulmates versus work-it-out theory.
* Number of Soulmate Believers - results from a 2001 Gallup survey, reasons for the belief's increasing popularity, and reasons why people stop believing.
* Definitions of Soulmates - summary of each definition to help clarify the confusion.
* Evidence of Soulmates - from all published research studies on long-term marriage satisfaction.
* Odds of Soulmates Marrying - what is the real percent of these newlyweds who actually are really soulmates.
* Soulmate Calculator - using population statistics, how many American singles do you have to meet to find a soulmate?
Always keep your heart in heaven." Love and allow!
Always Remember: The appointed time of soul-mates meeting (or reuniting) is Spiritually directed from above, and not intended to be humanly orchestrated, manipulated, or controlled.
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The universe has provided you with a living example of how to evolve your soul. In this relationship you may be the parent or the child, but you have a reference of experience with the evolutionary process. The evolution of your soul requires an investment of your energy as follows:
Spiritual Soulmate Guidance, Advice, and Counseling
- Divine Complement: The Spiritual Terrain of Soulmate Relationships - Drawing from the legacy of Jesus and Mary Magdalene, mythology, soul mate dreams and depth psychology, and filled with the most fascinating stories of how spiritual soul mates met, Divine Complement examines the divine territory of a spirit-to-spirit Spiritual Soulmate connection that ultimately draws twin souls together.
- The Spiritual Soulmate Rules of Engagement: How Kabbalah Can Help Your Soul Mate Find You - These Spiritual Soulmates rules are based on the timeless wisdom of Kabbalah and the very nature of the Universe itself. The Spiritual Rules of Engagement describes how Kabbalah views soul mate relationships and what makes them work (or not work); and reveals that it is the woman who holds the power to determine the outcome. The book explains the spiritual reasons behind the way in which men and women think and act differently.
- Twin Souls: Finding Your True Spiritual Partner - This is a time when many twin souls are reuniting. Authors Joudry and Pressman describe the Divine Plan of the Soul's masculine and feminine aspects, seemingly separate, yet eternally linked, as each journeys through individual growth to at last reunite into conscious soul unfoldment together. This book about Spiritual Soulmates clearly explains the process, provides you with the steps of preparation, the keys to recognizing your twin, recounts stories of several twin soul encounters, and inspires your own growth.
- Souls United: The Power of Divine Spiritual Soulmate Connection - Regression therapist Ann Merivale has studied the lives of ordinary people who have found their other half. From the glorious moment of instant recognition to karmic partnerships to shared past life experiences, this collection of inspiring true stories illuminates the rewarding and challenging nature of these intense relationships. There are also touching accounts of famous figures such as Edgar Cayce, Elizabeth Taylor, and St. Francis of Assisi, who experienced transformative twin soul and soul mate relationships. The deep bond between twin souls affects our lives profoundly, teaching us invaluable lessons and guiding us on our spiritual path. This book on twin souls and spiritual soulmates offers hope and reassurance thatin this lifetime or anotheryou will find your soul mate and experience enduring love.
- Together Again - Twin Souls Reunite in Love and Life - This is a true story of twin souls meeting and recognizing each other from past lives. Dennis' journey to discovering his psychic ability is detailed in Section One; Alice's life experiences as a young divorced mother and divorce attorney are emotionally told by her in Section Two; and together Dennis & Alice write about their meeting at the age of 46, and their mutual instant recognition of each other's energy and soul connection. Their honestly told stories deal with relationship issues, twin soul connections, and is a guide-book on recognizing your own twin soul.
- Same Soul, Many Bodies: Discover the Healing Power of Future Lives through Progression Therapy - Through envisioning our lives to come, we can influence their outcome and use this process to bring more joy and healing to our present lives. Dr. Weiss pioneered regression therapy -- guiding people through their past lives. Here, he goes beyond that to demonstrate the therapeutic benefits of progression therapy -- guiding people through the future in a scientific, responsible, healing way.
- Twin Souls & Spiritual Soulmates - Your twin flame spiritual soulmate is the identical vibration of the vibration you emit in your personality Self in this your now moment. And if you will recognize that you already embody the principle of love, then you will merge with your soulmate and the merging of soulmates creates miracles.
- One Soul, One Love, One Heart: The Sacred Path to Healing All Relationships - He shows us how to heal our most difficult Spiritual Soulmate relationships by transforming them into our greatest spiritual lessons and how to love, forgive, and care for all fellow human beings even those we find most difficult to love and forgive. With compassion and wisdom, Welshons invites us into a revolutionary new understanding of ourselves, our spiritual soulmates, life, our world, and all our spiritual soulmate relationships.
- Soul Mates and Twin Flames: The Spiritual Soulmate Dimension in Love and Relationships - The quest for love--and for that perfect partner--is really a quest for wholeness. With warmth and wisdom, Soul Mates and Twin Flames helps men and women explore the spiritual soulmate dimension of relationships and find new keys to wholeness and true love. You'll learn about spiritual soulmates, twin flames and karmic partners. You'll come to understand why you attract certain loves into your life. And why even the most difficult relationship can be a springboard into that perfect love you've been searching for.
- Divine Intervention II: A Guide To Twin Flames, Soul Mates, and Kindred Spirits - Non-fiction book which examines the concept of love as it relates to time and space. terms in his/her life. In a conversational tone, this book offers the Reader prayers, meditations, affirmations, quotes, and exercises intended to help the Reader prioritize the things he/she wants and needs in a fulfilled, loving spiritual soulmate relationship.
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